Nudity

Nudity is not the same thing as porn for our bodies are made up roughly of about 60% water and 40% star dust.  

The nitrogen in our DNA, the calcium in our teeth, the iron in our blood, were made from the interiors of collapsing stars. We are made of stardust. 

Nudity is not the same as porn.  In the old Roman Empire and in France especially, artists created beautiful nude sculptures and paintings that told stories and captured emotion. None of them are provocative, sexy or inappropriate, but they are all nude, and none of them are considered pornography, but if a woman is seen nude on social media in an artistic picture that tells a story, and captures emotion, people immediately sexualized that. She is slut shamed and people say she has no respect for herself. 

Now I'm not comparing this type of thing to the actions that Miley Cyrus performs on stage, nor am I shaming her for her actions, but she fingered herself on stage, that's porn, because it is meant to be sexual, and that's her choice. And as a person I respect her choice to be sexually open. 

I think a big part of feminism is giving other women, other people, the freedom to make their own choices even if to not necessarily a choice that I would make. 

And all the comments about women  "asking for it"....    

my jeans and t-shirt were what? too provocative?...  the night gown that seven year old girl was wearing was what? to sexual?... I mean there's way too many people saying that women just need to cover up their bodies, Excuse us for having skin, but may I remind you that my skin is made out of the same things that male skin is made from. 

That seven year old girl in an ankle length night gown was defiantly not asking for it. Me, in my blue jeans and AC/DC t-shirt, I was definitely not asking for it. 

If rape was about how little amount of clothing someone was wearing, then people wearing clothes wouldn't get raped, but they do. 

We need to stop having classes on avoiding getting rape and start having classes on not raping. 

We need to stop taking girls out of class and dress coding them because their outfits are distracting boys from learning, and start teaching boys to respect that our bodies are not for them. 

We've been taught that a women's body will cause men to sin. We're told that if a women showed off too much of her body then men will do stupid things. But let's be clear, a woman's body is not dangerous to you. It will not hurt you. It will not make you do stupid things, you choose to do stupid things.  And you have zero right to my body just because I'm not covering all of my skin. 

We shame girls simply because they are girls. We are told "periods are disgusting" "sit like a lady" "talk like a lady, it's more attractive to boys" "cover your body" As if being born a girl is already a disgrace.. And do not tell me to "talk like a lady" I do not give a flying shit if it's "unattractive to swear and use strong language" Telling girls to act a certain way because it's more pleasing for guys is such a pathetic mentality. It teaches girls that their roll is to please men! Why on earth would we teach girls that their roll is lesser than their counter part the same way that we taught blacks that they are lesser than theirs. We need to teach girls to embrace themselves. All of themselves. Their Femininity and their masculinity, and their bodies and the fact that they are made out of supernova explosions. 

So instead of teaching girls to cover their bodies, we need to teach boys to respect that our bodies are not for them. 

However we dress, wherever we go, yes means yes and no means no. Maybe if we stopped being so scared of everyone else's bodies, we could stop hating our own. 

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